Curioser and curioser...

Those were the words of Alice as she begins exploring the strange happennings in Wondeland. I echo her emotions as I encounter equally strange people behaviours around me who i expect to behave in a certain fashion, but the response is quite different from the ordinary! Being a people's person- I'm really much interested in getting to the bottom of it all.
Like this friend of mine who calls only when she is in trouble eventhough she is calling after a full four months, dosent begin by asking how I am but begins rightaway lamenting and venting about her love situation- and she is suppossed to be one of my best friends! Hmm...thats curious! Another situation, where I called a friend of mine home for brunch- cooked ample portions of food and dessert and the friend left after sumptously eating and no thank you! Curiouser!! Even curioser- an acquaintance (not even a friend) dismisses my qualifications in the face of marriage and the duties of a housewife! ("What are you going to do with a Masters degree?You might as well have gone to a cooking course!"). Well..its interesting to meet this kind of people only so that it gets you thinking about their thought process. Human psychology is indeed sensitive ground and must be tread with utmost caution. There are some other people who will go into any length of self dismissal just to make the other person feel good. I wonder how can anyone go to an extent of putting oneself down to please another. That perosn must have a very low self esteem. It puts the receiver on extremely thin ground as the person needs to be well aware of the other person's though process and behave befit.
The most recent situation where I have gone Curiosest is when I happenned to meet a friend I used to regularly hang out with in my Grad school days and she calls me up to help a find a job. And mind you, she hasn't bothered to keep in touch the past 5 years. Siggghhhh---in spite of laughing it off, and practially bitching about it to my hubby for as many as a dozen times, I want to figure out why this keeps happenning with me! Why is it that inspite of me being nice to people unselfishly, we don;t seem to be on the same page!
What if I behaved in a similar fashion with people I knew. Would they still treat me the way they treat me now? Will i be scorned upon and bitched about behind my back?! I am indeed so curious to know why this keeps happenning with me! When discussed, I got different answers, "Well, do you know how your behaviour is perceived by others?" " What may be wrong in your eyes, may be right in someone else's opinion". "Whats so wrong in that anyways?" which makes me feel that probably human emotions and thoughts are extremely perceptive- could be interpreted by a number of people in a number of ways which makes me wonder- wow--the human race is quite surprising in their behaviour. There is no constant in behavior types and behavior is susceptible to change as frequently as the change in temperatures in downtown SF. Does it mean that all of us are alike in some way? yes we are- we are unable to predict our behaviour with a person we've known for a really long time and that our behaviours are amenable with time and situations! Isn't that Mad?!!!!


"But I don't want to go among mad people," Alice remarked.
"Oh, you can't help that," said the Cat: "we're all mad here. I'm mad. You're mad."
"How do you know I'm mad?" said Alice.
"You must be," said the Cat, "or you wouldn't have come here."

So I guess I'll just have to deal with the situation and be Mad??!!!!!